Living with someone who has special needs, you tend to focus on establishing certain skills. You try to grow a foundation of skills that hopefully can be used at some point in the future to gain independence.
However something that has recently gotten in the way of that for my family is when others offer their life advice to my brother, completely contradicting whatever we’re trying to teach him. They always mean well, and it’s never advice that’s terrible. It’s simply not advice that is particularly helpful or relevant to my brother or any other special needs child.